Emotional maturity: self-management

What is self-management? Why do you need self-direction in life? Can you make better choices through self-management? With self-management you can determine how you wish to proceed in a difficult situation. How can you deal with conflicts better? How can you deal with stress better? How can you determine your own behavior?

What is it?

What is self-management? Self-management is the ability that man has to direct himself, to influence himself. Through well-developed self-management, people are able to:

  • Choose your own behavior
  • Choose your own response
  • To remain calm in difficult situations,
  • Deal better with changes in life,
  • Deal with stress better and
  • Deal better with conflicts.



Why do you need self-management? Self-management is part of emotional maturity. Self-management perfectly complements the competence of our self-awareness to understand ourselves better. We are able to make better choices in life. The ability of self-management allows us to make better choices in life.

How does it work?

How does self-management work in daily life? How do you respond during difficult situations, to difficult people or during difficult problems? With the help of self-management, you can decide for yourself how you want to proceed. With the help of self-management you can determine how you respond. With self-control you can determine your own behavior. For example:

  • By remaining calm and composed in difficult situations,
  • By approaching the difficult person with tolerance,
  • By approaching problems with patience, humor or even cheerfulness,
  • By not letting negativity influence you and adopting a positive attitude,
  • By opening up flexibly,
  • By remaining resourceful when a situation calls for creativity,
  • By knowing how to motivate yourself to continue and persevere,
  • By adhering to the agreements made,
  • By adhering to agreements made.



How can you work on self-management? How can you increase self-management? By answering the following questions honestly. Then ask someone close to you whom you trust and whose people you respect to answer the same questions about you. See for yourself what you do with this feedback: realize that you can learn from it:

  • What does it take to stop doing things?
  • What three things would you like to do more often to increase your own effectiveness?
  • What do you need to actually start doing these three things?
  • What things or things do you get your inspiration from?
  • What do you need to take responsibility?
  • What do you need to keep your word?


Build up

How can you build self-management?

  • By placing yourself in a rich learning environment: read as much information as possible about human behavior and actions,
  • By developing yourself and following training and/or courses,
  • By starting a learning diary where you write down how you react to difficult things or people.

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