One is extremely modest and will not or never talk about himself and the other likes to talk about himself and is often referred to as an egoist. Whether or not is not very relevant in this regard, what matters is the added value when you talk about yourself and how you can shape this.
Happy
More and more people say that your happiness is within your control and in fact that is true. You determine happiness based on the value you assign to things, such as love or friends, but also whether or not you have children, etc. Being happy is separate from material things and money. After all, if material things and money only make you happy, there is something else going on (which is certainly worth finding out, but which is not the point of this article).
Difficult to talk about yourself?
Based on the fact that your own happiness is determined, a start is relatively easy to make by talking about yourself. It may sound strange and not easy for many men or women. But make a start by indicating how you experience something or how you have handled it during a discussion about a certain topic or when discussing a situation about someone else.
Don’t think that someone else isn’t looking forward to it, because it can be invaluable if you share your experience with someone. It can give that person new insights, comfort or recognition. There is also the aspect that you become happier when you talk about yourself. And if you feel happier yourself, you will more easily share your good mood with others.
What does it all relate to?
To learn
When you talk about yourself you portray yourself as a person somewhere. You decide for yourself where your qualities lie and where they don’t, whether you are an early bird or a night owl and whether you are a sporty type or not at all. Call it a kind of explanation why you do the things you do and why you don’t do certain things. You tell someone else, but during this process you get to know yourself better and better, you admit who you are and the way you act.
A side effect is the fact that this learning process can also offer you new insights into certain situations around yourself. It may also provide insights into your conversation partner(s) and the assistance you provide. Describe it as a kind of personal wisdom, but based on experiences.
Relief
When you talk to someone about a certain situation, you will be relieved if you can also bring your own concerns about this subject into the conversation. It provides comfort, air and space in the head and creates order in your own problems. You sort out your own problems, as it were, and that in turn offers perspective.
The relief can also come from your conversation partner, because by telling your own story you increase the chance that the other person will also tell his/her story. Psychologists also use it occasionally. It can just push someone over the edge. What you say about yourself must of course be in proportion to the help you can and want to offer your conversation partner.
Friendship stimulator
One friendship is not the same as the other and where one friendship throws everything on the table automatically, the other will do this piecemeal. In fact it doesn’t matter as long as it is somewhat equivalent. This also immediately indicates the possible skew growth. This can arise if you talk very little about yourself. Possibly somewhat mysteriously, whether consciously or not, it will benefit the friendship if you lower the wall a little. This does not mean that you have to become a talkative person, but finding balance is important, also in friendships.
Accepting who and how you are is of course also part of friendship, but it is also part of friendship that you share something of what is going on in your mind. That creates the bond that friends have.
Self confidence
It has now been scientifically proven that talking about yourself, whether directly in a face-to-face conversation, in writing or through pictures, is good for your self-confidence. Social media such as Facebook and Twitter also participate in this process. But be careful that it does not become a diarrhea of words or images about yourself. Fun, sweet, shocking or confrontational as long as it is in doses and this of course also applies in conversations.
Finally
We take each situation head on to have a conversation about it. We analyze everything to learn from it, especially about ourselves. There is nothing wrong with that and it also offers the opportunity to create that pleasant feeling. my view on