You’re excited because you’ve decided to join speed dating. It’s a popular alternative to visiting a bar or internet dating sites, and you’ve decided to explore whether it can work for you too.
You know when it will take place and you have already decided what to wear
But you have no idea what you’re going to say to your various speed dates! Here are some ideas for getting the information you want from potential candidates.
Remember, it’s okay to be somewhat excited about this experience
But try not to go there with expectations that are not too high. It may well be that you don’t meet the right one right away, but you can try to make it a fun experience.
Smile, be friendly and keep your dating card out of sight
Everyone knows why you’re there, but it doesn’t reflect well on your date’s confidence if they see a dozen names on your card.
Make sure you have a list of questions with you
These should relate to what you find important in a relationship. Try a variation of several thoughts that come to mind to see what works best for you when you start a conversation with someone. Sometimes a good question produces a response from your conversation partner that says more than words.
To give you an idea, here are some options to get you started:
- Where do you come from?
- Do you follow politics? Do you consider yourself left, right or more in the middle?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- If you could do three turns, what would they be and in what order?
- What is your most valuable possession, and why?
- What is your favorite season, and why?
- Do you believe in reincarnation?
- What book did you read last?
- What is the most important thing I need to know from you?
- What do you look for in a relationship?
- When was your last relationship and how long did it last?
- What is most important to you in a relationship?
- If you could be successful in any profession of your choice, what would it be?
- What is your favorite music and which is your favorite artist or band?
- If you could have lunch with any person of your choice, living or dead, who would it be?
- Do you love animals/or do you have pets?
- What do you like to do most in your spare time?
- Have you ever been married?
- Are you religious?
- What kind of work do you do?
These are a number of questions that can help you get started, to give you an idea of what could be important to you during speed dating. Keep in mind that you only have a few minutes with the person you are speaking to, so you can ask a limited number of questions. Make your own list, relax and good luck with your dates!