Maybe you’re one of those people who hasn’t met the right one yet. He keeps crying when he sees romantic films and has come to believe that love has passed him by. But maybe you can help yourself a little bit. Learn to flirt, we can all do that!
What exactly is flirting?
Flirting is a way of communicating between people that subtly shows the other person that there is sexual interest in the game. You can show this in different ways: through eye contact or touch, in a conversation, but also via telephone or text message. That doesn’t sound that difficult at all. But flirting is essentially nothing more than sending signals in a nice, relaxed way that you find someone attractive. And sometimes this teasingly sweet form of communication can lead to a real relationship too!
How do you learn to flirt?
If you think shyness and awkwardness are part of your genetic makeup, and the idea of approaching someone just makes you nervous, remember that flirting is a very simple skill. Anyone can learn it with just a little bit of effort, so there is hope for everyone! Since the late 1990s, flirting courses have even become a real trend. Below are some tips and rules that you can easily follow to enter the world ready to flirt. On to perhaps your true love!
Flirting tips
- Radiate positive energy
If you want to impress someone, it is important that you shine. When flirting, make sure you always start with a few very positive words such as: ‘Have a nice day,’ or; ‘What a beautiful blouse you are wearing!’. This not only sets the tone, but above all makes the other person receptive to you as a person, so that you will receive feedback in a timely manner. Flirting is fun, remember that!
- Make eye contact
When you are flirting, it is important and nice for the other person if you look them in the eye. This creates an intimate atmosphere that is part of flirting. It is important to remember that you make more eye contact when you listen to the other person than when you talk yourself. Listening is also wonderful for the other party, he or she will really feel heard by your attention!
- Pay attention
Once you have ended up in a fun and flirty conversation, it is important that you listen to the other person with a lot of space and attention. A good tip to break the ice is to first tell something about yourself and then ask the other person the same type of question. If you know how to make yourself vulnerable, the other person will automatically open up more. These small openings are important when flirting, and you can achieve them by asking the right questions, being vulnerable yourself and listening carefully.
- Challenge
Flirting always involves a high degree of indirection. There must be something left to the imagination. The other person must be stimulated without having the immediate feeling of being charmed. The latter will often only have an adverse effect. Make jokes, tease and, above all, laugh mysteriously!
- Make compliments
If you want to involve the other person in your flirting, it is very good that you make compliments. Everyone likes this, provided they are sincere and sincere and there is not an excess of compliments. Be honest; say what you really like and love about the other person, and make him or her the center of all your attention!
- Be a mirror for the other
Finally, if you imitate small things from the other person, in a very subtle way, almost unnoticed, the other person will immediately feel at home with you. For example, if someone uses a safe word a lot, do this too, or position your body somewhat in the same way as the other person. It is usually nice for people to look in a mirror, and this behavior will automatically create more rapprochement.
That doesn’t sound that difficult, does it? If you use all these tips in a natural way during your next flirt: success is guaranteed!