Seducing women in a bar or nightclub is not easy, often the first step is the most difficult. This article discusses some mistakes when approaching women. In addition, tips are given on how to successfully approach a woman, and then move on to phase two: interviewing.
Mistake 1: Going out with too many men
A large group of men is intimidating to a woman. Compare it to a group of wolves picking out a sheep. It is better to enter the club scene with a maximum of 1 man, so that women will feel more at ease and perhaps initiate contact themselves. In addition, make sure you have your own means of transport so that it does not become a problem in later phases to take your target home or other location. Also make sure that whoever you go out with is interesting and adds value to the duo, otherwise you run the risk that your own success will suffer.
Mistake 2: Stay put
Men often stand in the middle of the dance floor looking around for suitable women. Don’t do this, it looks desperate, isn’t charming and it lowers your self-esteem. It is better to stand at the edge of the dance floor and not stare too much. It is also possible to change places regularly.
Mistake 3: Looking at the same woman multiple times
By looking at a target several times for a long time you create an uncertain impression. The woman in question will often get a ”that creep is looking at me for so long” feeling instead of being interested. Try to stick to the three second rule, which means don’t look at your target for more than three seconds without taking action.
Mistake 4: Making body contact too quickly
When you initiate contact with your target, do not touch her yet. Only do this after the first contact has been made and you have received signals that there is mutual interest, then start with physical contact. Always do this constructively, start with a small touch of the hand and build up slowly.
Mistake 5: Chasing your target
Don’t run after one woman like a headless chicken. If you are dancing with a woman and she walks away, do not chase her but remain neutral, keep dancing and possibly make contact with a new target. Women often try to make men jealous by dancing with someone else, do not respond to this; remember, you are the prize, women will come back eventually.
Mistake 6: Getting drinks for women
Initially, it is smart not to get drinks for your target. This emphasizes that she is the prize and not you. In addition, it gives the impression that you are not good enough for her and so you just buy a drink. If contact has already been made and you have already received several clear signals of interest, it is acceptable to get a drink.
Mistake 7: Not picking up hints
Some women will move away or stop dancing as soon as you approach them. They can also indicate that she is not interested in other ways. This is normal and not a problem, you cannot be successful with all women and failure is just part of the game.
Mistake 8: Approaching problem cases
When selecting your target, pay close attention and consider whether it could be successful. Women who show interest in another man are generally a lot more difficult and are therefore best avoided. Another example: women who come across as arrogant or women who reject men left and right are better left alone.
Mistake 9: Leaning forward
No matter how loud the music is in the bar or club you are in, don’t lean too far forward. Your back should always be straight, this conveys self-confidence. If your target wants to talk, shield her ear with your hand and lean slightly toward her.
Mistake 9: Don’t approach a target with her back to you
There are some disadvantages to approaching the dance floor from behind. If you get rejected, it looks bad and lowers your value to other potential targets. In addition, your target must first look around to see who approaches her, which looks less familiar.
Mistake 10: Don’t dance too much
Don’t be an overactive dancer, even if you can actually dance.
Mistake 11: Don’t get too drunk
Drunken men are generally not charming. You lose your game, self-control and ability to speak. It is wise to drink little or not at all. The only purpose of drinking a small amount is to loosen up and gain more self-confidence .