You often hear men complain that they don’t understand anything about their wife or girlfriend. They find them fickle and do not understand how to respond to their wife’s needs. If you recognize yourself in this, it is wise to read this article. Here are a few practical tips to better understand what a woman wants.
Understand
It starts with realizing that women are just people! And just like you, they don’t always know what they want, women, like the rest of humanity, are not omniscient beings. If you realize this, you can anticipate this by not always expecting a woman to know exactly what she wants. Another important thing to remember is that all women are different and no one reacts, wants, expects and desires the same. The only thing you can do to understand her better is to put time and effort into it.
Listen
It is a safe assumption to say that women often communicate more than men. It is therefore very important that you listen carefully to what she says. The trick is to be able to look beyond the words and also place it in context. You have to learn to sense what she wants and how she expresses herself. Once you understand this better, it will be easier to communicate in a way that both of you understand.
Ask
The key to every relationship is the courage to keep asking questions. If you don’t understand something then you need to understand what she means. Or if you don’t know exactly what she wants, just dare to ask. Treat someone with respect and then no question is too crazy. You may not always get the answer you were hoping for, or you may not be able to do much with the answer, but at least she will notice that you are genuinely interested and making an effort to understand her. This can make up for the things you don’t understand yet.
Reassure
It is important that a woman feels comfortable with you. The trick is to create a kind of safe haven, to provide comfort. This makes not only women but everyone more open, giving you more insight into what bothers or concerns her. You also have to make her feel like you always take her seriously, and you really have to do that. For example, if your wife arrives with a problem at work, you should not dismiss this with ‘well, I had the other day at work…’. Offer a listening ear and help think of the solution.
Feel
It is a generalization to say that women are sensitive, but for many women this is the case. Many women are sensitive to even very small signals that you may not have noticed. This makes it easy to unintentionally hurt a woman, for example with an innocent comment or joke. Here too, do not downplay any problem. If she says she didn’t like it, remember that for future times and tell her it wasn’t meant that way.
Get out of your comfort zone
To better understand your wife or girlfriend, you will have to get out of your so-called ‘comfort zone’ a little. Many women appreciate it when all emotions are thoroughly expressed – from both sides. You may not be used to this at all and you may have difficulty with it, but this is not a problem. If she notices that you’re trying really hard, that will make a big difference. But this is not only important to satisfy her, it is also very good for your relationship. If you get used to sharing your deepest emotions, the bond in your relationship often becomes much stronger.
Put yourself in her shoes
Not literally of course! To understand your wife or girlfriend a lot better, it is important that you simply take the time and make the effort to see the world from her point of view. Women often still encounter barriers simply because they are women; acknowledge this. If you become familiar with the issues that almost every woman faces (e.g., earning less than a man, being stereotyped, being undervalued), you will gain a much better and deeper understanding of a woman’s mind and heart.