The first comment is that some psychologists say that hate is not an emotion, but an emotional attitude. In any case, ‘hating someone’ is often used. Yet most expressions are not as heavy as the meaning of the word actually is. There may be times when you have feelings of hatred, but it is also confused with other heavy emotions. That doesn’t change the fact that it is annoying, especially for yourself, if you have strong feelings of hatred. Many therapists are busy with it, but work is also being done in the so-called alternative circuit to get those heavy feelings out of someone’s system.
What is it?
If we check the dictionary it says: “Feeling of enmity towards something or someone, feeling of deep aversion, enmity, resentment, feeling of great disgust and anger.” Hating someone or something is not an emotion you want, because it requires a lot of negative energy, which makes no one any wiser and can even consume a person in the worst case. But often you have no control over it, the feeling is too strong. Psychology says that it is a projection of your own shadow side onto the object (which can also be a person). A shadow side that you deny in yourself, but is recognized as a kind of mirror in the object. Actually a painful process.
More and more people are suffering from it and want to get rid of it, and according to a Canadian study (Montreal) from 2011, the ratio between men and women is 40% versus 60%. Which is described as remarkable by several therapists. A footnote in the report says the following (translated): “Hate is closer to men, for hatred can make them strong enough to go to war. Jealousy is usually closer to women, because of the thoughts of not living up to something and a competitor does.” By the way, it is added that women express feelings more easily and if hatred is one of them, then this percentage can arise. A comment that apparently partly undermines the research.
Practice
Whatever the case, hate is an emotion that holds negative feelings and can, as it is popularly called, make the heart heavy. You detest something or someone and in a lighter form you use it when you are grumbling. In addition, hatred, in a more intense form, can also drive you to hurt a person you hate, as well as destroy what you hate.
,I don’t have time to hate people who hate me, because I’m too busy loving people who love me.,
What can you do about it?
Psychotherapist
There are various options and one that many people choose is the therapist with whom you bring to light the feelings of hatred, the how and why and make it disappear from your system or at least neutralize it. This may sound simple, but it is not, especially if you have been living with these feelings for a long time. There are psychologists/psychotherapists who specialize in working with these types of emotions.
Naturopath
In addition, the so-called alternative circuit is also active, but the approach to the matter is different. Identifying the cause can be done in various ways, although it should be noted that these processes also take a longer period of time. For example, with foot reflexology you can understand the entire body through the feet, and this also applies to strong emotions such as hatred. But you can also specifically tackle emotions with finger reflexology (which is not yet well known in the Netherlands). There are various naturopaths who tackle emotions from a different angle and help the body get them out of your system.
Get started yourself
Of course you can also get started yourself, but that is not for everyone. Especially since you often have to hold the mirror up to yourself in a rather confrontational manner and not everyone can do that. However, if you feel capable of doing so, you can try to dissect the basic process. After all, what makes you hate something or someone? What is triggered? What does it do in your body that causes those feelings to surface? And then what do you achieve with it? Does it solve anything? It sounds like psychology from the cold ground and in fact it is. However, this does not alter the fact that for a certain group of people it is possible to analyze the process in such a way that they realize that it has no added value. Neutralizing the process and, as it were, paralyzing the emotion ensures that you do not continue to walk around with that negative energy. It is partly an emotional process, approach it rationally and that works for some people.
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Prevent
It is better to avoid developing feelings of hatred, something that unfortunately not everyone can realize. If only because some people have sensitivities that can be inflamed by certain people. Just think about what happens within certain beliefs or sects. The charismatic leader can, if you are sensitive to it, make everyone be loving, but also incite all kinds of feelings of hatred with all possible consequences (for example Hitler’s racial theory).
Still, it’s important to be alert when it comes to certain feelings, because if you can nip them in the bud, it makes the process easier. If someone does something to you, at least emotionally, first consider what the reason is or could be? What might you play a role in? What makes you hate that person or even want to do something to them? In other words, hold the mirror up to yourself in time.
In conclusion
Hate can consume you, suck the energy out of you and scar you for life. Anyone can imagine that this is not worth it. But sometimes we just let it happen and are not consciously concerned with the feelings. Sometimes an awareness process can be a first step towards calling for help.