Your relationship is on the rocks. As far as you’re concerned, this didn’t have to happen. What can you do now to repair the relationship between you and your ex?
There is no work at home
Were you really there for her during the hours you were home? Many men’s thoughts are elsewhere. They are at work with the unprocessed events or are already thinking about their work tomorrow. Leave work where it belongs: at work. When you come home you are supposed to be relaxed. If at all possible, try to cycle to work. The physical exertion releases all kinds of substances that make you much more relaxed. Turn off that cell phone after work. There’s no point in looking at your email all the time when you’re at home. If it is absolutely unavoidable that you still have to work from home, agree on a defined time period for this. When that time is over, you really make time for your partner. If you get used to responding to every email at any time, your colleagues will really think that you are always available. When you are at home you are not at work. Point. This will save a lot of annoyance. Your girlfriend will have a nice, relaxed guy at home. It is probably also better for your own health in the long term.
Choose a shared passion
After a while, rut can creep into a relationship. If you look closely at couples who have been together for many decades, it often appears that they make the effort to do things together. Usually these couples share a great passion. This could be a sport such as volleyball. This does not mean that you both have to be super fanatical about this sport. You can also consider volunteering for a good cause or association. It is important that you do something fun or educational together.
Sincere attention
If your girlfriend is already home, show your sincere attention. Don’t immediately dive into your hobby room. Sit down and talk about the day. Don’t just talk about the negative aspects of your work. Don’t go too much into highly technical aspects of your work unless you work in the same profession. Emphasize the social aspects. Tell who you had lunch with, tell something about colleagues’ children. Also give your friend the time to tell her story. Even if she has told the same story several times, listen patiently. Don’t get angry and say you’ve heard this story many times before. Don’t tell her to look for another job if she complains. You’re not supposed to solve her problems for her. She just needs someone to listen right now. Women experience more stress at work because their memory works differently. They link many more emotions to events. They therefore need more words to literally vent.
Household
When it’s almost dinner time, you could go shopping together or help with cooking. Then you kill two birds with one stone: your girlfriend doesn’t feel like she’s in charge of it herself and the housework is more likely to be sidelined. Then she at least has the impression that she can rely on you in domestic matters. Many women have a longer planning horizon than men when it comes to family matters. In any case, the ladies want a partner who also contributes to household chores during busy times. So after eating, be smart enough to clear the table yourself. Unload the dishwasher or take initiative when washing the dishes. These seemingly small efforts can build a lot of goodwill!
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