Building relationships is not an easy subject for many people. However, it does not have to be that difficult. With a few guidelines you will automatically learn to build a relationship in a good way. Showing interest in the other person is a particularly crucial point. People respond to attention the same way flowers respond to the sun. They turn to the person who gives them positive attention and shows interest in them. Just check it out for yourself. After all, you usually enjoy it when someone asks interestedly about your family, your work or your relatives. So take an interest in others, listen carefully to your conversation partner and you will automatically have more and better social contact with that person. It could even be the start of a long-lasting friendship.
The beginning of a relationship starts with showing interest in the other person
Most people unconsciously immediately create an image of you when they see you. How you look, the features on your face, your posture, your hairstyle, your head and hands, your shoes and even your gaze immediately determine whether the other person likes you or not at all. As a result, that person will smile, start a conversation or turn away from you. People are not always aware of that first impression, but the intensity of the subsequent social contact largely depends on it.
The very first seconds of a meeting are important
The first seconds of an encounter are therefore decisive. It is not only the clothes that make the man or woman, but the entire personal impression on the other person matters. It is not without reason that the saying goes: ,Clothes make the man,. It is a fact that clothing, shoes, etc. mainly determine your impression of someone else. In addition to this, the care of the hairstyle, hands and nails, skin and general posture also contribute to the overall impression.
You can also immediately create an image of the other person yourself
You may not be immediately aware of it, but you also assess every person you meet within a few seconds and immediately determine whether that person is important to you or not. If you like that person, you would do well to start an opening conversation in a friendly manner. If the other person has not found you interesting up to that point, you can still rectify this by communicating in a good and pleasant manner. Not only through the language, but also through your facial expressions and attitude.
Showing interest in the other person helps a relationship get going
The best way to get the other person’s attention is to show interest in him or her. Not in a pushy way, just interested. That has a very normal cause. Man is a social being. Everyone has the need to be liked and interesting by others.
Dressed sloppily gives the wrong impression
Some people think they have no need for this and deliberately dress sloppily because they have been disappointed in contacts with others in the past. Sometimes they also do this to show others that they go their own way and are not bothered by the judgment of others.
Chance encounters are often the beginning of new relationships with others
However, it is not wise to ignore what others think of you. After all, you don’t always know who you will meet that day. There are chance encounters every day. Encounters that you would never have thought of. This could include a future employer or perhaps even someone with whom you would like to build a relationship. Poorly dressed and poorly groomed will give you a completely wrong impression. That immediately ruins a starting contact. The opportunity is immediately lost. No one lives on an island and almost no one likes to live all alone. People need each other.
Many people want to be important themselves
In addition, everyone wants to be important to the other. Just look at yourself. If someone shows interest in you as a person and in your work and personal circumstances, you will like that and will find it easier to start a conversation with him or her. It also works the other way around in most cases. So show interest in the other person and ask what he does. Encourage the other person to explain what he likes and is interested in. The other person is usually grateful for the interest in his person and will be happy to start a conversation with you.
Never start a conversation with new relations by talking extensively about yourself
How would you feel if someone approached you at a party and continuously talked about himself: how important he is to his boss, how well he is doing financially and how successful he is socially. We bet that after a few minutes you will secretly look around for another, better conversation partner? So never start a conversation about your own qualities, but instead immediately show interest in the other person.
Don’t beat your chest when looking for a partner
It naturally follows that during a first conversation with a potential life partner you should never tell success stories about yourself, but rather ask with interest about the other person’s living conditions, work and hobbies. Only then will the other person also be interested in your person and an animated conversation can arise between you, in which you get to know each other a bit.
Answer interested questions from others
During the course of the conversation, the other person will also show interest in you and ask you about what you find important. This then opens up the possibility of exchanging opinions and information. Sometimes you even discover mutual friends or relatives in each other’s vicinity. At that stage the relationship is actually already a fact. You have built a relationship together and only need to maintain and deepen it if you both feel like it.
Put your own interests in the background for a while
However, also at this stage, be careful not to put your own interests above those of the other person. Building a relationship is about being interested in the other person. That’s the basics. If it isn’t there, the relationship will always fail. After all, no one can keep up listening to the other person’s embellished stories about themselves, without losing their own egg in the process.
Interaction is crucial in building relationships
Building a relationship consists of an interaction between two people, where each of the two puts sufficient energy into the relationship and also gets sufficient energy out of it. In this way, a relationship continues to exist and has a right to exist. However, the basis is to show interest in the other person. However, if the other person shows no interest in you, then there is usually little point in continuing with it.
Years of social interest can help you build a circle of friends
The people around you who have the most friends and acquaintances are usually people who have a great social interest in their family, friends, neighbors and acquaintances. Also people who have a positive attitude to life and who others often enjoy being with. They are involved in the lives of others, which naturally extends their own lives. However, that does not go smoothly, but these people have worked on it for years.
Good social contacts make you happy
Show interest in others and you will be happier in the long run. It is not only nice to be interested in the lives and work of others, but the better contact also makes you feel better about yourself. The reciprocal attention and better social contact make you feel that you are accepted and that gives you a positive feeling.