Many people lack self-confidence. Do you also feel that you lack self-confidence? And do you wonder, like everyone else, why it bothers you? Or do you think: how do I learn to live with little self-confidence? Actually, you don’t have to be able to do this, because everyone can rebuild their self-confidence. There are fairly simple methods for this and the chances of success are certainly not minimal. A lack of self-confidence is a problem for many people. People who appear very confident can also suffer from it. For example, they can hide it by bragging, being dominant or by behaving like a macho. It’s their way of dealing with their insecurity, but no one actually has to live with this. Learning to trust yourself again is the only good way to be truly confident. It is very important that people start believing in themselves again. If this is not the case, their perseverance and motivation decreases. Their performance itself is also strongly influenced by it.
‘Self-love and self-knowledge’
Self-confidence is closely linked to the elements of self-love and self-knowledge. When a person is insecure, the other two things are also affected. That is why it is important to also look for solutions to rebuild both self-love and self-knowledge.
Self-love is simply liking oneself, but for many people loving themselves is not that common. They are annoyed by their mistakes or failures and therefore self-love decreases more and more. When someone likes himself, he will recover more quickly and become less desperate in the face of setbacks. A person who has little love for himself does the opposite. A good dose of self-love makes someone’s life easier. The same goes for self-knowledge. Does someone see themselves as a good friend? Then this is the basis of an inner strength that helps him/her to overcome problems. Is someone more likely to consider themselves their own worst enemy? Then the difficulties are unbridgeable. Do you have little self-knowledge? Then improve the image you have of yourself by no longer looking at the negative. Pay particular attention to the positive aspects of yourself.
‘Women and men’
In general, women’s self-confidence is damaged more quickly than that of men. A man rarely loses sleep over criticism. While women need constant confirmation. They therefore need more support from others, because they attach much more importance to someone else’s opinion. Most women value the approval of others more than their own feelings. Because women’s self-confidence is so dependent on what others think, their self-confidence is much less stable than that of men.
‘THE CAUSES’
So it is not the case that you are given a certain dose of self-confidence at birth and that you have to live with it for the rest of your life. A number of factors significantly reduce your self-confidence.
‘Environment’
A person’s environment can greatly influence their self-confidence. If people don’t take you seriously, sooner or later this will have an effect on your self-confidence. There is a good chance when something like this happens frequently that you start to doubt yourself. This is also true if someone often hears condescending comments. Over time you will attach importance to it and therefore believe it yourself. In fact, all negative influences such as criticism or ridicule damage someone’s self-confidence. This is inevitable for everyone. For example, a child who often has to be told that he or she is stupid will have little self-confidence. It is also better to avoid dominant people, because sooner or later they damage your self-confidence. They are simply unable to listen and have a very negative impact on your self-confidence. In addition, the support you have received or will receive is very important. If this is missing, there is a good chance that you also believe less in your own abilities.
‘Experience and feeling’
The experiences you gain can also decrease your self-confidence. If you have successfully completed something, you will be more convinced of your own abilities the next time. If it were the other way around and you failed at something, you will start with little self-confidence the next time. Indirect experience also influences someone’s confidence. If you saw someone else mess up or do an excellent job, you will also have less or more confidence in them.
Finally, having little or a lot of self-confidence also depends on how the person feels. If you are in a difficult period, you will believe in yourself much less than when you feel good.
‘HOW TO RECOVER?’
To increase your self-confidence you have to trust yourself again. Because you have to learn it again, it is best to take everything step by step. So don’t overtake yourself, but certainly don’t stand still.
A lack of self-confidence is not something you can immediately solve. How long everything takes depends on how much it affects your thinking. The progress you will make depends on the extent of your lack of self-confidence. In addition, perseverance in wanting to repair this problem also plays an important role. On the other hand, the environment alone is not largely responsible for its origins. They can also greatly hinder the rebuilding of self-confidence by criticizing or discouraging you. Try to avoid such people. People who sincerely support you are very welcome, because they can even speed up recovery.
To regain your self-confidence, there are several solutions you can try. Some tricks will suit you better than others, but keep in mind that none of them will give you immediate results. Keep at it and little by little your self-confidence will grow. Without even thinking about it, you will apply the following tips with much more confidence in yourself.
‘No attention’
Have you already made some attempts to build your self-confidence? Then maybe you are one of the many who fought against themselves and not against the lack of self-confidence. Although the two are closely linked, it is only the latter that needs to be combated. Lack of self-confidence usually takes the upper hand and yet you can use a trick to ignore this. Don’t pay attention to it and go against it! For example, do you feel like cooking, but your lack of self-confidence holds you back? Then cook anyway! By doing it anyway, you prove to yourself that you can do it. This only makes your self-confidence stronger, because you did something you previously thought you couldn’t do. The more you challenge your poor self-confidence, the more self-confident you become. If you continue to persevere, the urge to do something will be resisted less and less.
‘Independent’
Someone with little self-confidence may have become very dependent on other people. That person is convinced that he/she cannot live without them. For example, it is impossible for him/her to make decisions without the advice of those people. Actually, that person has more confidence in those people than in himself. And this is wrong, because the individual in question feels inferior. As a result, self-confidence does not have a chance to grow and can only decrease. To prevent worse, it is important that you become more independent. That does not mean that you have to let go of the people who mean so much to you, but it does mean that you have to let go of your dependence on them. It will also benefit the bond with the people involved, because that dependency becomes oppressive for the other person over time.
‘Not giving in’
People who lack self-confidence are quickly persuaded by those who are sure of themselves. Afterwards he/she feels inferior, which reduces his/her self-confidence even more.
Yet there is a good method to resist someone who wants to change your mind. Make your voice heard when someone refuses to listen! And you do that by repeating the same words over and over again! As a result, you not only convince yourself, but it becomes increasingly difficult for others to refute your opinion. Nevertheless, it will not be such an easy job for you either, because the other person’s attacks provoke an uncontrolled reaction. So keep saying the same thing even if you get angry or feel guilty or selfish. In any case, don’t let yourself get discouraged, because the only thing that is good for your self-confidence is not to give in.
Once you are sure of yourself, drop this method as quickly as possible. Otherwise you will come across as very annoying.
‘New’
You can build self-confidence by learning something new. It is logical that you will make mistakes in the beginning, it is even part of it! The next attempt will go more smoothly than the first and your confidence will grow as a result. The more you master the new skill, the more confident you will feel. Not only about that new business, but your complete self-confidence will also increase because you have discovered that you can do something fun!
”Self-pep talk’
Another solution to building your self-confidence is self-pep talk. This self-talk technique is easy to learn. In addition, everyone can choose what he/she likes best. Take short sentences, because long self-pep talk sentences are of no use, on the contrary!
This is how you boost yourself!
It is already true.
Do you want to change something about yourself? Then pretend that you are already that way by speaking in the present tense. Don’t say: I am becoming more confident, but think: I am confident!
Only positive
Negativity doesn’t help you anything! So the nk and speak positively. It is not: I am no longer insecure, but it is: I have self-confidence
You are me
When you talk about yourself, there is only one correct form: the I-form. So don’t talk about we, but about I.
Forever
The self-pep talk sentences are not just for now, but actually forever. That is why you mention words in your sentence that make the long term clear. An example of a correct sentence is: I always have self-confidence.
Correct Words
Pep talk includes positive emotional words such as happy and enthusiastic, but not words such as maybe and possibly.
Don’t forget
You shouldn’t forget a self-pep talk. Keep thinking and saying them, but also put them on paper. Hang this in places where you often go and have to take lessons.
You can also use this self-pep talk to increase your perseverance and deal with negativity from yourself or others. Which in itself also benefits your self-confidence.
With these tips you will gain more and more self-confidence. Don’t forget food, no matter how small it is: if you achieve something in an upward trend, enjoy it to the fullest! Always dare to feel good about that big victory for you.