Friends come and go. But why can’t a friend always remain a friend? Why are years of friendships lost within a day, week or month? Is it you or not? Read here what can be the reasons why years of friendships can suddenly end. If you have recently lost a good friend: don’t worry. Friends come and go, but true friends are for life.
New school
Your best friend goes to a different school than you. That means a new class with at least twenty new peers. New times, new environment, new contacts. Meeting up with each other always fails and eventually you no longer bother to make contact. The friend you went through primary school with disappears from your life.
Holidays
Another culprit is vacation. You decide to go on holiday together. Enjoy doing fun things together all week long. Appearances can be deceiving, because that good friend turns out not to be nice company at all. Friends always think they know each other, but you only really know each other when you have been together all day long for a long time. Irritations can lead to conflicts that can mean the end of a good friendship.
Love
Your best friend gets into a relationship. You don’t hear anything anymore and he or she can never go back, because his new love means everything to him. Logically, of course, but you feel pushed aside. And especially when he still doesn’t say anything the second and the following months. He is completely obsessed with her and drops everyone and everything. You too. His new love has destroyed the friendship between you. It is often the case that when you break up, the person in question comes back to you. Yet the friendship is damaged and will never be the same again. It can even be awkward and unwanted, ultimately causing the friendship to deteriorate.
To move house
Your best friend, perhaps even you, is moving. Far away or at least too far to see each other every week. You make contacts in your new environment and meeting up with your old friends is not an option. And so an old social network makes way for a new and fresh one in your new environment
Interests
You have been close friends since primary school, but during puberty you come across each other’s interests. These turn out not to match at all and you soon start looking for people who do share these interests. Before you know it, you’ll have new friends and that old school friend won’t matter much to you anymore.
Adult
You get married, start a family and little house comes true. You will set new priorities and this can be at the expense of friendships. They are not that far yet and want to enjoy their free life for a while. They lose sight of you and you lose sight of them.
Hidden love and jealousy
What could also be a reason is that you start to like your best friend. You start thinking about her more and more, meeting up more often and at a certain point you admit it: you are in love. Unfortunately, the love is not mutual and in one fell swoop all intimacy is gone. You no longer have the old conversations and the friendship feels different. Out of shame you avoid her or him and the person you cared about most disappears from your life.
Whatever the reason, try to talk it out as much as possible. Arguments usually go nowhere and aren’t worth giving up a friendship over.