How do you get more friends? By doing those things that you like? Is anyone interested in the things you enjoy doing? How can you positively influence someone? By discovering what the other person wants and desires and showing them how they can get it. How do you persuade others to follow your way of thinking? How can you interact well with people by influencing them positively?
Interest
Is anyone really interested in what you would like? Is anyone interested in what you want? Is anyone interested in the things you do? It goes without saying that you do the things you want to do. That’s human: following your own desires and wishes. But, no one else is interested in what you want. Other people are really the same: they are only interested in their own wishes and desires.
To influence
How do you manage to influence others? By first discovering what the other person wants. What does the other person want? What does the other want? What is the other person’s desire?
You can then influence the other person positively by talking about what the other person wants and showing the other person how they can get it. If you can do this, you can have the whole world behind you.
Desire
Do you know what the other person desires? Do you know what the other person wants? Are you able to evoke an eager desire in the other person? Then you are able to convince the other person and influence them positively. Tailor your words to what the other person wants to hear.
To convince
How do you get someone to do what you want? How can you persuade someone to do what you want? Then always ask yourself: What does the other person want? How can I ensure that he also wants what I want?
Example
An example to clarify how you can positively influence someone:
Suppose your child wants to start smoking and you as a parent would rather not. Sermons don’t help. Indicating what you want (that your child does not start smoking) does not help at all. The child does not want to hear what you want, the child wants to hear what he wants, what he wishes and desires. What does the child want? Want to become a famous football player? Which famous football player smokes? Smoking can be the cause of the child not being included in the national football team: then the child’s wish falls apart.
Advertisement
Advertising is an excellent example: advertising creates a desire in us and we do exactly what the advertising wants us to do: buy!
Commercial
Business letters can also benefit by positively influencing customers. Business letters should not be about what the company wants, but should respond to the needs, wishes and desires of the (future) customer. If you can do that as a company, the market is open to you.
Making friends
If you are able to positively influence other people by creating an eager desire in them, you have taken the first step toward making friends. Use the information to make friends and build a strong friendship.