It sounds simple and of course it isn’t. However, if you are able to control your negative emotions, much more energy can be channeled into the positive and who wouldn’t want that?! Yet there are methods that help you control your negative emotions, including the teachings of Rasa Sadhana.
Your negative emotions
Take a good look at yourself, how do you deal with emotions (especially negative ones). Are you exuberant in gestures or words or do you collapse? Do you fly into anger or become catty? And once you have figured out how you react, it is also good to see how often this happens to you and how long you linger in such an emotion. Add that up and see how much time you spend on negative emotions. This is not to say that you should never have negative emotions, but all in all, as humans we are often concerned with negativity.
Expectation pattern
In many cases, incorrect expectations are the cause. Wrong expectations can be caused by unclear agreements, but also by the culture of a country/people. Some people politely say that they are doing something, but it does not actually happen or at a pace that suits them best. You then find out later and lo and behold, your emotions are playing up.
To be right or to be right?
And then you can have it on your side, after all, you have made an agreement, but if the other party does not fulfill it, you will not gain anything from it on balance. Then dealing with this only evokes negative emotions.
Reverse the process
The aforementioned Rasa Sadhana is based on the simple fact that it is better to focus on positive emotions. Sounds simple and of course it isn’t. But here’s how to get started.
Analyze
Agree with yourself that you will not experience a certain negative emotion such as irritation, anger, etc. for a certain period of time. This can be one day, but you can also agree with yourself that you will not experience it for a week. The moment the negative emotion takes control of you, you immediately start analyzing. For example, why did you become angry, what exactly triggered the feeling? Suppose someone has not fulfilled their agreements, then you can of course continue to be angry. But the fact is that the other party has not done what you thought you should expect. Going against it to be proven right means that you get stuck in that negative emotion. So pointless and then try to put it into perspective. What causes your anger? What can you do better to reverse the process? Make new agreements, consider that if it happens tomorrow instead of today, what will be the damage suffered? And try not to take it too seriously, but also laugh a little at (positive emotion) your anger and get on with the order of the day.
Then you move on to feeling positive emotion and think about what more you can get out of it. Try to approach it lovingly, if it is not loving for the other person (after all, you could put that person through the wringer), then do it for yourself. Give yourself the feeling of love, laughter, things that make you feel good. After all, where are you if you can’t even give yourself something positive?
Follow-up
Try to extend the periods to banish your negative emotions and when you are less and less bothered by the negative emotions, switch to letting the positive emotions predominate. At some point it becomes second nature to look at things this way and no, you don’t flatten out, because those negative emotions will still rear their heads every now and then. You just deal with it better, immediately turn it into something positive and you no longer suffer from negativity and it therefore no longer costs you time. Ultimately, you can work towards the feeling that it no longer arises. You just have to take it seriously and give it enough time. This is not a process that you pick up on the fly.
9 emotions
- Love, Shringara sadhan
- Joy, Hasya sadhana
- Wonder, Adbhuta sadhana
- Calmness, Shanta sadhana
- Courage, Veera sadhana
- Anger, Raudra sadhana
- Fear, Bhayanaka sadhana
- Sorrow, Karuna sadhana
- Aversion, Vibhatsa sadhana
Finally
It may not sound concrete, but it really works. You have to be mentally ready for it, because it is not a process that takes a few weeks. If you go for it completely and make it concrete for yourself around the emotions, it is doable. Not easy, but feasible. It’s wonderful when you slowly get rid of all those unnecessary negative emotions.
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