Everyone wants to be in a relationship at a certain age. Whether you’re 10 or 100, it’s always nice to be able to share everything with someone you love, and to have someone there for you. Unfortunately, relationships sometimes go wrong for certain reasons. This article describes how you can deal normally with your ex.
What kind of person is your ex in your life?
An ex can play a different role in each situation. This is an important factor to consider when choosing a way to get along with your ex. Your ex could be a childhood sweetheart that you still bump into every day, but also a holiday sweetheart from abroad or the father or mother of your children. It may also be the case that your ex is in the same group of friends as you. It is therefore important to determine what role your ex plays in your life.
Do you hardly see your ex anymore? Then read on under the heading: Do you rarely or never interact with your ex anymore? Do you still spend a lot of time with your ex for whatever reason? Then read on: Do you still spend a lot of time with your ex?
Do you rarely or never interact with your ex anymore?
If you hardly ever interact with your ex anymore, it is best to keep it that way. Stop contacting your ex. If you happen to bump into each other, you can greet each other kindly, provided you parted well and peacefully. You can also have a short conversation. However, don’t be too interested in your ex, it didn’t happen for nothing. Look ahead and move on with your life and don’t keep focusing on your ex.
Do you still spend a lot of time with your ex?
If you still spend a lot of time with your ex, it is important to consider what role your ex plays in your life. Is your ex a member of your friend group or the father or mother of your children? Then it is important to maintain a good relationship. After all, arguing in a group of friends is not very pleasant, and in addition to making it less pleasant for you and your ex, you also drag your friends into this situation without even knowing it. The same applies even more if your ex is the father or mother of your child. Children naturally want to see that their father and mother are kind to each other and have fun with each other. Parents are the example for the children. It is therefore always important to treat each other well in the presence of your children. This isn’t possible? Then make sure someone else picks up the children from your ex, or wait in the car. There is nothing worse for children to see than arguing parents.
Tips to make dealing with your ex easier
Keep distance
If the relationship has just ended, it is wise to keep some distance, if this is possible in the situation. Let everything sink in for a moment and get your life back on track. This may take a while, it is different for everyone. By keeping your distance you can start your life again with a fresh look. You can put the person out of your mind and continue looking at other fish in the sea. If you are still seeing your ex constantly from the start of the breakup, you will always have your ex in your mind and the coping process will be a lot more difficult.
Friendly, but not interested
You don’t have to go through life as best friends with your ex, but do say hello to each other, even if your ex doesn’t do this, keep it up. This way he can never speak ill of your ways now that the relationship has broken down. Don’t be too interested in your ex, your ex will probably just like to hear this and he or she might string you along. After all, people always like it when someone likes them (still).
Don’t talk negatively about your ex
Don’t talk negatively about your ex, gossip is always passed on. Negative talk is also a form of jealousy, people will think that you still have feelings for your ex. In addition, there is the fact that you once thought positively about your ex, namely in the period before the breakup. So your ex has positive points that you fell for at that time. By talking negatively about your ex, you are actually partly lying about your ex.
New boyfriend or girlfriend? Fun for him or her!
Most likely, there will come a time when your ex finds a new love. If you still have feelings for your ex, this is very annoying and you can actually only speak ill of the new love. The trick is not to do this, because you won’t make any friends by doing this, and you will still clearly show that you feel something for your ex. Talk positively about the new love, but don’t make too much of it.