The promise of eternal fidelity does not guarantee that your boyfriend will never be able to have a relationship with another woman. Because you trust him, you will not immediately become suspicious at the first sign or signal. But if there are several signals that indicate an affair with someone else, you should still consider with healthy suspicion whether your husband may be having an extramarital affair and maintaining unwanted contact with a second girlfriend. Strange behavior is sometimes an indication that someone else is involved.
The man
Like many other species, the homo sapiens male is programmed to ,do it, with as many women as possible. Undoubtedly, polygamy is a nature built-in trait to preserve the species. Perhaps partly because men are naturally exposed to greater risks and are therefore at risk of dying at a relatively young age, due to war or in defense of their wife and children. In many cultures, there is no problem with a married man having a mistress. And the harem was also an example of tolerated polygamy at the time.
Don’t suppress your intuition
This does not alter the fact that within a normal healthy partnership or marriage, both man and woman prefer a monogamous relationship in which no concubine is involved. But any relationship can cool down over time. Or rifts and conflicts can arise that make the attraction of other nice women irresistible. Of course, your friend initially gained all your trust and it is logical that you are basically without suspicion and do not look for anything behind it. But if several signals turn red, you cannot be naive and the alarm bells should start ringing. Also realize that you are usually the last person to find out that he is cheating, because you do not want to take the signals seriously at first. While, on the other hand, friends, neighbors and colleagues are often more aware of the crooked skate.
Signs that boyfriend is cheating on you
What are the characteristics and symptoms that may indicate that your man may have a secret intimate relationship with another nice type? Behavioral changes that may be indications that another woman may be involved:
- Your intimate relationship is different than before.
- He acts nicer and more polite to you (in an exaggerated way).
- He pays more attention and energy to his appearance, perhaps he has started dieting and has recently joined a gym.
- More money is spent on clothing because the wardrobe has been updated considerably, with not too cheap items.
- He stands in front of the mirror more often, smells different, aftershave, etc.
- New glasses, perhaps laser eyes or contact lenses, eye lifts. While such options were never an option in the past.
- Body hair is better shaved and cared for everywhere, both downstairs and upstairs.
- Often dreamily absent, inaccessible and lost in thought.
- Regularly has to go out more often and often comes home later due to meetings or without clear explanation.
- Less time for you and the kids.
- Other uses of the mobile phone such as responding differently to incoming messages. Pretend more often that no messages are coming in.
Without proof there is no guilt
Even if you identify all these characteristics in your man, it is not a 100% certainty that there is another woman in his life. Because even if you don’t notice any of these symptoms, there could just as well be another girlfriend. But be alert to the possibility of adulterous behavior if several of the above characteristics stand out to you.