The attraction of the opposite sex to men is enormous. A straight man looks at women all his life. Not fun for a girlfriend or wife if it happens disrespectfully and conspicuously. Insecurity, irritation and jealousy are logical reactions to the boyfriend’s peeking at other girls. If you are really a big guy, you should not unashamedly stare at other female beauties near your own girl, even secretly in such a way that she notices it.
Man is polygamous
Just like most mammals, the male of Homo sapiens is also programmed to ,do it, with as many different females as possible. Biologically speaking, a man is not monogamous but polygamous. Ever since puberty, every boy has been looking or ogling at the girls, and as an adult married man, the feminine beauty is not lost on him either. It seems as if a man’s retina is controlled by his libido or testosterone hormones throughout his life.
Once a straight man is in a committed relationship, he will no longer shamelessly stare at every pretty girl for several reasons:
- norms and values (respect, status),
- promise of eternal loyalty,
- respect and love for his girlfriend,
- family man with a sense of responsibility.
But occasionally still inconspicuously looking at the alluring that inevitably passes the field of view. Because the fascination for other nice girls with charming eyes is still there, despite the love for his steady relationship. And it’s also difficult to look the other way on the beach when a sexy figure in a bikini walks past, swaying her hips.
Jealousy
Women are often wired differently and are also aware of the danger their partner faces during contact with other ladies. Nature gives the woman a helping hand with the emotion of jealousy. Jealousy is a trait that is often interpreted negatively and undoubtedly sometimes is. But at the same time it is a safety system that ensures that a person remains vigilant as soon as his/her partner has too close contact with a person of the opposite sex. After all, an extramarital affair can lead to a catastrophe.
If jealousy is accompanied by reasonableness and common sense, i.e. only expressed when it is important, it can have a preventive effect to maintain your relationship. The partner will even appreciate that his girlfriend has feelings of healthy jealousy, because it also indicates that the girlfriend apparently considers him important enough not to share him with another woman. It is therefore also a token of appreciation and recognition for the boyfriend if his girlfriend or wife is jealous every now and then. And that also applies the other way around, of course.
Parties
Parties are the perfect occasions where fun things can happen between singles in terms of relationships. But a pleasant evening that you go to together can lead to irritations and bickering between the partners. Men and women come into contact with each other, while alcohol, perfume, sexy clothing and exciting music activate the hormones. Every guy and girl will make a mistake at some point if he/she pays more attention to someone else that evening than to their own partner. If one’s own girlfriend happens to be asked to dance enough times by others, the damage will not be too bad. But if you are the one who, as a tipsy family man, husband or boyfriend, dances and leers all evening with another girl, while your steady girlfriend or wife angrily languishes at the bar alone, you are not doing it wisely.
Club, association parties
If you have pleasant and civilized contact with members of the opposite sex every week at the sports club, your company or singing club, you cannot suddenly neglect those club friends and colleagues on that annual outing because your wife is also with you. Your partner must understand that for once he/she will not receive all the attention that evening. If this can lead to difficult split situations, be sensible and stay at home as a partner, so that your friend can feel really relaxed and you don’t have to bicker afterwards. Give each other that civilized platonic pleasure with regular choir friends, sports buddies or nice colleagues.
Your girlfriend less jealous
As a man, you should understand that it is not fun for your wife if you unashamedly leer or stare at other female beauty. Watching is allowed, but don’t do it constantly, and always civilly without turning your head. And not conspicuously sneaky out of the corner of the eye either. And as a woman you have to understand that it is unacceptable for a man to no longer have a normal conversation with any other nice person from the moment he starts dating. A balance must be found in this.
The fact that he has a steady girlfriend does not mean that he can only argue with every other attractive woman. A civilized dance with someone else should be possible every now and then. It is therefore important to carefully coordinate this subject and make agreements. Treating each other with respect in the presence of the opposite sex is paramount. But at the same time you can trust each other and have a chat with someone else. Looking civilly and neutrally at the meal served is something different from sitting with your hands on it.
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- Men are much more beautiful than women, objectively speaking