If your partner cheats on you, it is probably one of the worst things that will happen in your life. But is cheating really that bad? The one who cheats would say ,no,, and the one who is faithful would say ,yes,. The cheater often has a clear reason why he or she is cheating. But of course there are also cheaters who actually always do it. I have my own opinion about this.
Cheating on me
Cheating is having sexual contact or a sexual relationship with someone other than your regular partner. Cheating is quite a relative concept. Some people think a kiss is cheating and others only think it is cheating if something is sexually explicit (cybersex). Of course, cheating is very bad for those who don’t expect it. But it can also make you think that something is wrong in your relationship with your partner. A partner usually cheats when he or she is lacking something (usually sex). But hey, you can’t force someone to have more sex with you. Often the partner who has entered into another relationship regrets that relationship. He or she knows that you are causing your partner a lot of pain, but the damage has often already been done. You can’t take back what you’ve done. What are you doing? Will you confess this or will this be a secret for the rest of your life?
Own opinion
Agree clearly with your partner when something is considered cheating. Many people have completely different opinions about being in a relationship. Some people have a free relationship. This means that you are allowed to have sexual contact with another person. Other people have a relationship like: ,looking is allowed, but touching is not,.
Usually your partner will find out sooner or later what you have done. But my opinion is that it is better to hear it from your partner than from someone else or for your partner to discover it themselves.
If you cheat, you do it on purpose, you enjoy the thrill of being caught. Or is it simply cowardly, because you cannot/don’t dare to discuss with your partner what you are missing in your relationship. In my view, both are wrong. When you are in a relationship and you get married, you do it to be connected to someone for the rest of your life. With someone with whom you can discuss everything, solve problems, have children, and who you love. And not to string someone along to be in a relationship just for the sake of it. After all, someone in a relationship is considered more attractive and intelligent than someone without a relationship.
If you are cheating and you have children, think about that. They are also victims of it. A relationship often ends after cheating. And then the children are often the victims of this. They often no longer know where they stand. They must miss a dad or a mom at home. I’m not saying that if you no longer love each other that you should stay together for the children. On the contrary. But be sure to explain to the children why mom and dad are no longer together and that it is absolutely not their fault. Because children often blame themselves!
Stay together or break up
If cheating has occurred, do you break up or stay together and give the relationship another chance. That is something you have to decide together. Talk to each other carefully about what you expect from each other. Keep in mind that the cheater has a fairly good chance of repeating the offense. Be honest and open to each other. Perhaps you will solve the problem, or else part ways as (good) friends. There is no point in staying angry with each other because one no longer sees anything in a relationship. You have mutual friends and there is a good chance that you will meet each other there again.
Finally, some indications that your partner may be cheating:
- Partner behaves differently (more distant)
- Partner suddenly has much more or less interest in sex
- Partner is suddenly absent at strange times
- Partner suddenly has to meet more often or work overtime than normal
- Partner behaves skittish
- The PC is turned off or all kinds of windows are suddenly closed when you come close
- You find out that your partner is lying about what he went to
- Partner carries a different scent
- There are things in the house that are neither of you
- Partner talks about other men or women in sleep
- Partner suddenly suffers from an STD, while you have nothing to worry about
- Partner receives all kinds of SMS messages that you are not allowed to read and are quickly deleted
- Partner makes telephone calls using cryptic words or does not answer the phone in your presence when the number has been viewed
- The telephone is next to the device if you are not at home overnight
- Your partner dresses up more than normal
- Your partner is unpleasantly surprised when you suddenly come home unexpectedly and suddenly has to make a phone call
- If your partner has a conversation about cheating, it does not necessarily mean the end of the relationship
Don’t worry immediately if any of these things happen. It may also be that your partner has a surprise in store for you. But if this happens more often and it becomes a habit, you have to pay attention. Try not to show too much that you might notice something. Because if in the end nothing seems to be wrong, then trust is damaged. news highlighted