Cheating is high treason. Confidence takes a big hit, perhaps the biggest hit you will experience. Infidelity usually happens for 2 reasons, either sexual or emotional and there is always that third person involved.
The emotional bond
Infidelity will not only lead to physical separation, but will also be characterized by emotional distance. This emotional distance can occur if you lose your partner’s trust or if you constantly tell him/her half-truths (or lie). This betrayal of your partner can cause a lot of emotional pain and will often lead to the end of the relationship.
What will happen after your partner cheats/infidelity? There are different phases that a relationship must go through after the trail of infidelity.
Phase I: The roller coaster of emotions
This is the phase where many strong emotions arise. Lots of anger, sadness and self-blame followed by a period of analyzing your own feelings and evaluating your relationship. Your emotions are running all over the place. You cannot be fathomed by outsiders and you live in your own world.
Phase II: The freezing phase
This is the less emotional phase (icy phase), at least for the person who has been cheated on. This is the moment when this person starts to wonder what exactly happened. They can ask for more details or withdraw completely. Someone else is also often called in for help in the matter.
Phase III: Building trust
This is the stage where the couple has decided to stay together. The couple tries to work on their relationship during this phase. Trust and forgiveness can be achieved, but a lot of effort must be continuously pumped into the relationship.
A sign of hope
After there has been infidelity in a relationship/marriage, it will be difficult to trust the other person well from time to time, but there is certainly hope. Below are some signs that the person still cares about you;
- Breaks all ties with the third party
- Accepts total blame for his/her betrayal
- Sincere apologies, you will hear this difference immediately
- Express sincere remorse and regret for cheating
- Talk openly about what happened
- Open to relationship therapy
- Shows a newfound admiration and respect for you
End of the relationship?
If your partner isn’t open to discussing these things, it may be time to take the plunge and go your own way. Additional symptoms that it may be time to end the relationship are;
He she.
- seems more agitated/irritated than usual
- seems to withdraw from you emotionally and physically
- goes out alone more than usual
- makes secret phone calls
- works a lot overtime
After infidelity occurs, you will have to be aware of the dangers and work on the relationship. But be careful, so pay attention to the above-mentioned signs and let this ultimately make the right choice in your relationship.
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