Leaving the parental home

For most people, there comes a time when they leave their parents’ home. This can be done together or alone, but it will always take some getting used to in the beginning. It often seems ideal to leave home, but there are also a number of disadvantages. For example, you may not have done all the household chores with your parents and you may discover that you don’t actually know how a washing machine works.

Searching for a house

When you want to leave the house, you will have to start looking for a house. Finding, renting or buying a house is not always easy these days. If you want to rent, you will have to be registered with the housing association or you can rent through the private sector. Renting through the private sector means that you can usually move into a house immediately, but the rent is often a lot higher. If you rent a house in the private sector, you usually do not receive housing allowance. If you are going to rent through housing, you can often register from the age of 18. However, in larger cities you may have to wait 5 to 7 years before you qualify for a house.
Buying is sometimes also an option, but a permanent contract or a statement from your boss is required to get a mortgage. Purchasing is quite expensive for a one-person household, but it does have its advantages for the future. However, when you leave home for the first time, you may not yet know what you would want after 5 years. You may be able to build something up by buying, but selling can sometimes be very difficult.


Some people will have more chores in the parental home than others, but they usually do not have to do the entire household. When you leave home and live alone, all household chores are your responsibility. If you put it off, the chores will only pile up. If you move in together, the tasks will have to be divided, something that may not have been considered earlier in the relationship. If one has done a lot with his parents and the other has done little, this pattern can continue, causing one to do more than the other. To prevent this, you can make a schedule of who does what and when in the household.


Some pay board fees to their parents, but not everyone has to. In fact, it often happens that the children only have to pay for their own clothes and outings or other small things until they leave home. When you leave home, all finances will have to be arranged by yourself. There are many fixed costs associated with owning your own home, including:

  • rent/mortgage
  • gas water Light
  • telephone
  • taxes

It is useful if you have everything in order from the start so that you do not worry or only think about it when there are already debts. Make a budget to see what feasible monthly costs will be for you. Before you move out of your home, it is also very difficult to estimate how much you will spend per month. For example, electricity costs differ per household. Therefore, always calculate more costs to avoid being surprised.


If you move out of your parental home and live alone, this can take some getting used to. Normally both parents might be home to catch up and now there isn’t always someone else home. This feeling can be very common, especially if you live on your own. It is often a matter of getting used to it, for others it helps to purchase a pet so that there is always someone waiting for them at home. If necessary, make sure that you plan a lot of things in the beginning. If you are moving to a new place, find a hobby to meet new people.

Thinking about everything

Now your parents may still do some of the thinking for you, for example by doing the shopping or paying the bills. From the moment you leave home, you will have to think about everything yourself, so it may happen that you forget something with the groceries a few times because you normally never buy them yourself.

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